Are You Dealing with loneliness?
Other Esteem Issues?
Dealing with loneliness is a very hard battle
simply because you feel that you are battling it alone. Unless someone has gone through this before they cannot quite understand how a person truly feels in this situation.
Loneliness and depression are two areas that may need the care of a doctor. There is nothing wrong with giving it a good try yourself, but—I will say this up front—if you feel over whelmed then seek professional advice.
“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.” Mother Teresa of Calcutta
Your loneliness may stem from a major loss of someone close. This loss could be death or divorce. If so, then your grieving may not be over. There are many stages of grief, and each person goes through them differently. If you feel that you have been dealing with loneliness for an extended period of time then you may want think about professional counseling.
I have a good friend who lost her husband some years back. She didn’t want to burden us with her problem, so she never talked to us about what she was going through. Don’t be like that. Find a friend, clergy, find someone that you can speak freely with and tell them your thoughts. This is why professional counseling may be a good idea, because you can speak freely, without the fear of judgment that you may think friends or family might have.
There are times when, for no reason, we are overcome by intense feelings of being utterly alone. This is so frustrating! To be surrounded by friends and family, and yet feel lonely. Unfortunately this also could be a sign of depression, and again it is good to try and work through this stage in your life. But, if it’s not working, then seek professional help.
I have worked years trying to overcome depression. When looking back, seeking help from the medical field may have shortened my time tremendously. It can be done, but how much time do you want to give in to this, to almost waste, trying to work through it. Give yourself a reasonable time limit—work hard, and if you can find your way out, wonderful, if at the end of your set time you can’t…seek help.
Loneliness doesn’t always signal depression. It could be an underlying issue of
low self esteem.
The general feeling is, “I am not worth anything, so people don’t want to be around me.” Well, you can see what needs to be worked on here!
"You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are alone with." Wayne Dyer
There are some simple ways in
improving your self esteem
that don’t involve chanting “I love myself” in front of your mirror! The number one would be to change your focus. Notice I said simple, not easy!
In dealing with loneliness, you need to begin to enjoy being with yourself, but I really don't think spending hours in front of a mirror repeating positive affirmations is going to do the trick! It is all between the ears, really! That is where you need to like being with yourself.
If your lack of confidence makes you feel unwelcome, then don’t waste another moment. Get to work on that! If you having been asking yourself
how to build self confidence,
then you need to! Self confidence will enable you to look at the bigger picture, not just the who, what, and where.
It may be a case of shyness. This first thing you must do is share your thoughts with people around you. You don’t have to turn into Chatty Cathy overnight, just chose and idea or interest you can express and join in the conversation. Nothing major. If you usually don’t say a word, then say a couple…next time try and double that…then double. Biggest mistake made here is that people try and become the life of the party at the next party1>b> Small forward steps still bring you forward!
You don’t have to continue dealing with loneliness! It will take time and effort, but you can do it!
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