Teen Psychology and Esteem
You don't need a degree in teen psychology to raise yours, although you may feel like you need it! …Especially when it comes to helping them balance their self esteem.
Teenage psychology can be baffling! In a large part due to the age difference….it seems that some parents have forgotten that they were teens themselves. But your teens needs you to help direct them through these years.
Your teens self esteem is being molding during this time, and usually in ways that aren’t going to produce the highest esteem needed.
Today’s media is one of the most under rated influences on your young adult! The media outlet focuses on areas that can quickly undermine anyone’s self esteem, much less a teen that is still in the process of building a foundation.
Unfortunately, the “superman” mindset, and most teens have this,has them believing that this form of information will not adversely affect them! Peers also play a role in teen psychology. After all, it is ingrained in human behavior to be accepted in some way.
So, when you get a few teens thinking that nothing can harm them, or not accepting the full repercussions of their actions, you have a mind field where trouble is brewing.
A teen with lower self esteem is more inclined to take risks. Studies show that every day, almost 5,000 teens under 18 try marijuana for the first time. 20%, that’s 1 in 5, teens has abused a prescription pain medication and 20% have report abusing prescription stimulants
Where alcohol is concerened, 50% of 8th graders have tried alcohol. If they start to drink before the age of 15, they have a 40% chance of alcoholism as an adult, and more than 67% of those will try drugs.
Teens looking for acceptance or approval may become sexually active. Again, studies show that over 50% of 17 year olds have been or are secaully active. The more sexually active they are, the lower their self esteem, and the lower their self esteem, the greater chance of getting into a bad or abusive relationship!
You can help, even without a degree in psychology! Your teen needs to know you accept them and are there for them. When you show this, it increases their esteem. (Remember, for your sanity, you accept them, this does not mean that you accept or like their actions or choices!)
Check you communication with your teen. You need to be honest, yet aim for a more positive approach with them. This is a good practice with everyone. Keep your positive comments higher than the negative, some say that a 5:1 ratio is the best.
Remember, good communication skills require being an active listener. Listen more than you talk! And when you do talk, it doesn’t need to be all advice. Be a real person to them,not a nagging parent. Let them know what’s going on in your life, your disappointments and doubts. (Just not about them)
Also schedule some time with them. No big plans or time agendas to follow, just be with them.
There is really nothing new in the field of teen psychology. Your teen is moving from child to adult, and you are now moving from the parent of a child to the friend of an adult.
But it takes time! Don’t give up!
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