Teenage Girls Self Esteem
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Teenage girls self esteem is a vital part of their mental health. Most young girls struggle with their self image in today’s society.

There are many teenage girls today that suffer from low self esteem. The Dove Campaign for Real Beauty has recently commissioned a study on teenage girls self esteem, it's findings are reported in the "Real Girls, Real Pressure: A National Report on the State of Self-Esteem." All parents need to know what they found out!

Seven in ten girls believe they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members.

62% of all girls feel insecure or not sure of themselves

More than half (57%) of all girls say they don’t always tell their parents certain things about them because they don’t want them to think badly of them.

The top wish among all girls is for their parents to communicate better with them, which includes more frequent and open conversations about what is happening in their own lives.

This is an unfortunate situation that sets the foundation for low self esteem that a girl will carry into her adult years.

With the media today, teen girls are bombarded with the “correct” image by TV, movies, lyrics, and magazines. Even your teen’s peer group will have an impact on what they think is correct.

With all the distorted views of what is good and fashionable, from body image to clothing, success and dating, you as a parent will need to help balance out your teenage girls self esteem. It may seem like a war that cannot be won, but everything that you can dowill help your teen in forming a balanced view of herself.

There are many consequences of ow self esteem in teens. Many, as with eating disorders, can have lasting affects, ones that she may fight with for years.  

Help Build Your Daughters Self Esteem

This will take work, but it is quite doable. Remember how to eat an elephant, just one bite at a time! The most important thing to remember is to treat them as you would like to be treated, as an adult woman. She is learning from you, learning about you, and learning how to treat others as well.

From the Dove Report:

93% of girls with low self-esteem want their parents to change their behavior towards them in at least one way (Compared to 73% for girls with high self-esteem)

This includes:

Wishing to be understood better (Low: 60%, High: 14%) Being listened to more (Low: 52%, High: 18%) Spending more time with them (Low: 43%, High: 15%)

These tips are for Moms as well as Dads.

Be a good example! Have great self esteem yourself, along with a positive view of your own body. Your teen will either learn how to accept herself or to criticize herself.

Unconditional Love- Let her know that what you dislike isn’t her. It may be her choices or her actions but not her. I have told my own daughter that while I was disappointed in her choice, I was not disappointed in her as a person.

Have open communication. This is very important! Be an active listener, and don’t nag! As soon as you move into nagging mode she will turn you off. Find things to praise her about. Don’t be false – find honest things that deserve praise!

Dad’s role- Yes, his role is just as important for herself esteem during this time. She will form an underlying foundation for her future relationships from the one that she has with you!

One last thing, help your daughter chose something that she can participate in, where she can excel. One that she has an interest in, or that you know she will be good at. This will build self confidence, which rolls over into your teenage girls self esteem.

Remember to keep it honest. Take time to let her know your own areas that you struggle with and how you have learned to deal with them.

Keep it natural. It will take time, but once your teen realizes that you are there for them, they will warm up to you…..and talk!

Decide today – to work. Work at doing your best, being your best, and accepting the best!

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